Alternative to P2P - Purity Curriculum

Puberty

Objective:  

 Memory Verse  

“So, God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male  and female He created them.” (Genesis 1:27)

 Lesson Outline:

 First Session:

Using the creation story to illustrate that God is in charge of their development.  

Quick break

Quick break!

Remember these very important points about your physical development:

  1. Each one of you will go through these changes at different times and rates So, don't worry if you are growing quicker or slower than others. God's timing for you is perfect.
  2. These changes are performed by God's blessing and hidden hand that works inside of your body.
  3. It is for a great cause, and that is, developing you as His mature young man/lady representing Him amongst other humans that may not know Him.
  4. Therefore, these changes are very holy and are preparing you to be God’s  Holy man/lady in the near future.
  5. These changes should not be a subject for worldly exploration or ungodly  discussions.
  6. Be specifically careful from watching any ungodly videos or images that can  destroy God’s beautiful image in your mind. 
  7. Be very careful not to engage in any inappropriate exploratory touching  whether of your own private organs or those of others that can turn into  ungodly habits.
  8. If you by any chance fall into any of the above-mentioned ungodly habits,  please consult with your father of confession as early as possible to help you  get rid of them through the grace of God.  

Conclusion  

Let me grow

Objective

To help girls understand the concept of purity and worth in Christ.

Memory Verse
"Do not stir up nor awaken love. Until it pleases" (Song of Solomon 2:7).
"Listen, O daughter, Consider and incline your ear; Forget your own people also, and your father's house; So, the King will greatly desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, worship Him. The royal daughter is all glorious within the palace, Her clothing is woven with gold. She shall be brought to the King in robes of many colors" (Psalm 4 5:10-14)
"I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well" (Psalm 139:14)

Introduction
(Background Research for Servants)
Things to keep in mind when preparing for a lesson but not to be included in the lesson.

Hormones are tiny chemicals in a female body that cause these changes during  this age: 

1. God’s Plan for Purity:

2. How does the Devil mess it up?

It is important to create a safe space for girls to feel comfortable to have this conversation. The lesson should be more of a discussion than a presentation. Leave room for the girls to share their thoughts and feelings - and keep the main points in
mind.


Activity
Write out the following questions on a giant piece of paper each (5 total) and put them around the room. Give colorful pens and post-it notes to the girls and have them go around to each poster and put their answers up. After they do that- go around and
discuss the answers before jumping into the lesson.

  1. Why don't I look like the women on TV and movies?
  2. I like to wear nice clothes that attract guys. Is that ok?
  3. Why did God give us sex? Is it controllable?
  4. I want to know about sexual stuff and learn about it- is that ok? What should I do if I see a bad image?
  5. Can I tell my father of confession everything during confession?


Lesson Outline
After a brief prayer and introduction- start answering the questions

  1. Why don't I look like the women on TV and movies?
    • God has made each one of us in His image
    • We are fearfully and wonderfully made.
    • Must remember we need to be accepted by God
    • Mention how those on media spend years starving themselves and have teams helping them look good,
    • Our job is to focus on our inner beauty.
  2. I like to wear nice clothes that attract guys. Is that ok?
    • Guys are more visual- that means they often look at appearance
    • There is nothing wrong with looking nice- but it is important to protect what God has given you.
    • You can look nice and stylish without dressing provocatively or wanting to get a guy's attention.
    • The guy who just pays attention to looks is not the kind of guy you want attention from.
    • Good guys share values of modesty and purity and worth waiting for.
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  3. Why did God give us sex? Is it controllable?

    • Sex is an expression of love between  two who have been united through the  work of the Holy Spirit. (John 10:6-9)

    • When experienced in the holy bond of  marriage as God has designed it, it is  good.

    • Real love gives and not takes; first, you  give your mind, heart, and soul and  then last even the body to the person  that you loved and bonded with  through God in marriage. This is the  completion of this love, this is the  system that God has created for us in  marriage.

    • Yes, it is controllable, we are not animals. (Galatians 5:16-18)

    • It’s a choice, of course, we can control it by the power of the Holy Spirit  we can overcome temptation, but it is not easy – stay away from the  cliff! (Ephesians 5:26-27)  

  4. I want to know about sexual stuff and learn about it- is that ok? What should  I do if I see a bad image?

    • It is normal to be curious about your own body and other bodies.

    • It is important though to understand that there are a time and place for  everything.

    • Talk to your mom or an older female servant regarding any questions  you have.

    • For bad images turn your eyes. You cannot keep the birds from flying but you can  stop them from nesting on your head.  

  5. Can I tell my father of confession everything during confession?

    • Yes, he is a representation of Christ and will not judge you.

    • God and your father of confession will be sad for your struggle, not angry  at you.

    • Your father of confession has heard similar things from other people and  he never judges you.

    • He takes your sins and struggles and gives them to  the Lord.

    • Your father of confession will not remember your weaknesses and will  NEVER disclose them.  

Conclusion

Application  

1. Flee temptation- when put in a situation, escape it. Why tempt it? Come up  with examples with the girls.  

2. Fences- build fences or “protection” around your heart, ears, heads feet,  eyes, etc. Have them come up with examples.  

3. Friends- be careful who your friends are.  

4. Limit Free Time. Think up ideas on how they can keep busy together.  

5. Father God- run to Him. Keep Him in your life. 

 

Peer Pressure

 Objective  

To help 6th graders understand what  peer pressure is and how to combat it.  

Memory Verse  

“Do not be deceived: Evil company  corrupts good habits. Awake to  righteousness, and do not sin; for some do  not have the knowledge of God. I speak  this to your shame.” (1 Corinthians 15:33-  34)  

“Now when Peter had come to Antioch,  I withstood him to his face, because he was to  be blamed; for before certain men came from James, he would eat  with the Gentiles; but when they came, he withdrew and separated himself, fearing  those who were of the circumcision. And the rest of the Jews also played the  hypocrite with him, so that even Barnabas was carried away with their hypocrisy.”  (Galatians 2:11-13) 

"And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God." (Romans 12:2)

Introduction (Background Research for Servants)


Things to keep in mind as preparing for a lesson but not to be included in the lesson.
Read the various links and familiarize yourself with the various facts about peer pressure and realize that it is a serious subject. Even if the examples that the students are giving are not reasonable or seem insignificant- please remember that this is dramatic for them and seems like the end of the world. It is important to create a safe space for them to share their feelings and fears.


Lesson Outline

1. What is Peer Pressure? (Middle School Definition)


2. What are the pressures we face

3. How do we combat them?

Role Play Scenarios in separate groups  

Activity  

Split the students up into groups and have them act out a variation of this skit and  let the other students guess which kind of pressure this is. Feel free to change the  names or scenarios to make it more appropriate for your students.  

Scenario A-Team Fans (don’t tell other groups this “Trick” is “Rejection”)  

Characters:  Josh, a boy who has just moved to the area. Several other boys who are local team  fans  Setting: Outside the building before or after school or in the cafeteria during lunch  

Action:

Scenario B – Substitute Teacher (don’t tell other groups this “Trick” is “The Put  Down”)  

Characters:  Brianna – a polite, respectful middle school student. Other less respectful and  somewhat rowdy students Mr. /Ms. Morgan – substitute teacher  

Setting: A middle school classroom  

Action: 

Scenario C – The Math Test (don’t tell other groups this “Trick” is “Reasoning”)

 Characters:  Pete, a kid who didn’t study for a math test. Friends of Pete, who did not study but  have a “cheat sheet” Mr. /Ms. Smith – the math teacher  

Setting: A middle school classroom  

Action:

Scenario D – The Party (don’t tell other groups—this “Trick” is “The Huddle”)  

Characters:  Katrina – a nice girl who  likes a cool boy and wants  to be popular.  Mike – the cool boy that  Katrina likes.  Other cool kids  

Setting: An end of school  year party.

Scenario E – The Dance (don’t tell other groups—this “Trick” is “The Look”)

Characters:  Diana a shy girl is wearing simple, plain clothing. Diana’s shy best friend Mark  also dressed in a plain way. Other “popular” students are wearing stylish jeans and  casual shirts.  

Setting: A school dance.  

Action:

Conclusion  

After each group acts out their skits, ask the students how the situation could have  changed. How could they combat pressure? Write out the examples on a poster or big  sheet where everyone can see it.  

Remind the students that Christ is always with them. That they should always feel  supported and be ok to approach a trusted adult to talk about their problems.  

Application  

Help the students come up with a  plan that they can use to combat peer  pressure by taking some of the  examples they learned about and  discuss how to react in the best way to 


 

There is a time for that

Objective

Memory Verse
"To everything, there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven." (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
"Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?" (1 Corinthians 6:19)


Introduction
Today, we are going to spend some time talking about the subject of dating. We'll also discuss singleness and friendships.


Lesson Outline

  1. God's intention for us as Christ-followers
  2. Biblical view on marriage.
  3. History of dating.
  4. Why shouldn't young people date now?
  5. What is the point of singleness?
  6. The story of Peter
  7. How can you remain just friends with people from the opposite sex?
  8. Five attitude changes, which can help you, avoid dating too early

1. God's intention for us as Christ-followers.

2. Biblical view on marriage.

3. History of dating.

4. Why shouldn't young people your age date now?

5. The story of Peter

6. How can you remain just friends with people from the opposite sex?

7. Attitude changes, which can help you, avoid dating too early

  1. So, let's think about five attitude changes, which can help you avoid dating too early
  2. First, every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ's love. Relating to people the way Christ did, in a kind and compassionate way, will prevent us from becoming self-centered
  3. Second, remember that your unmarried years are a gift from God. Enjoy this time of your life. Many times, young people can't wait to grow up because they think adults have a lot of freedom. But adults have so much responsibility and little time to enjoy life.
  4. Third, it is important to realize that you don't need to pursue a romantic relationship before you are ready for marriage. In fact, getting involved with someone at a young age will likely bring about heartache
  5. Remember the concept we talked about before - the joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment. Without a commitment to marriage, you cannot experience the true joy of intimacy with another person.
  6. When people are only dating, they have no rights over the other person. In marriage, however, a husband and wife become one body and therefore, this is a completely different relationship than simply dating.
  7. Finally, it is critical to remember that you should avoid situations that could compromise the purity of your body or mind
  8. True purity flees as fast and as far as it can from sin and compromising situations. Protect your heart from sinfulness. Proverbs 4:23 says "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.
  9. There are a few final concepts to remember. Most likely, people who are dating at your age will not marry that person in the future. This is because teens have not yet fully developed mentally or emotionally, and therefore adolescents are not able to commit to another person.
  10. Lifelong commitment requires a great deal of maturity and sacrifice. Finally, we cannot love as God loves and date as the world dates. God's love is about putting others first, but dating is really about pleasing ourselves.

Conclusion
We talked a lot about dating and God's plan for teenagers. The real purpose of dating is to evaluate someone for marriage. It's important to use this time in your life to develop friendships and continue growing. Remember, if you have any questions or concerns; please feel free to talk to any of us. We are here to help and support you.